Conflict and ADHD

When you have ADHD, it can feel like you're dealing with conflict much more frequently than the average person. But looking at the symptoms of the condition, it's easy to see why. Many of the behaviors associated with ADHD can potentially strain relationships with partners, family members, friends, and coworkers. Consider the following examples:

  • Difficulty concentrating: You struggle to pay attention during a conversation, and your partner feels ignored and devalued.
  • Poor organization: Family members feel like they're constantly having to clean up after you around the house.
  • Forgetfulness: ADHD-related forgetfulness leads you to miss an important deadline, a friend's birthday party, or your child's school event.
  • Impulsivity: You blurt out a hurtful comment, or you make impulse purchases that strain the family budget.

These are just a few examples of ways in which ADHD symptoms can create conflict in your life. It's tough to feel like you're constantly asking forgiveness for things which are somewhat out of your control. After all, you didn't ask to have ADHD. It's just something you're trying your best to deal with on a day-to-day basis.

Situations like the ones described above can often lead to arguments. The people in your life feel wronged, and they may say things they don't mean in the heat of the moment. This complicates things since, in addition to feeling like you need to be forgiven for your ADHD behaviors, you now need to forgive someone else for the hurtful way in which they responded.